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On “What” and “Why”

August 26, 2011 By Sarah Maliphant

Always be clear about the Big What and Big Why
By Bertie Junior, Kitten age 3 ½ months

Hello. There’s lots of detail in life and it seems to me you can confuse yourself if you think too much about that. You would not believe how many things I find on the floor every day that honestly look like toys, even if they’re not.

Anyway, I’ve just chewed over (literally) an article that Mum wrote and I’ve decided to reinterpret it for kittens, cats and other people too.

So, the tip to handling all those details and choices excitingly well is apparently to have a clear sense of your overall direction, purpose – the biggest end result you can dream of and the reason why you want it. Then everything else slots into place beneath that. That’s why it’s called the Big What and Why, it’s got to be big enough to hold all the other little whats and whys (like shall I wash my left paw next or my right?)

I think the big view is important because it helps you give more to life and enjoy more of life. And it gives you lots of other nice things too like the ones below. I’ve explained them using my Big What and Why as an example.

My big What is to be happy and spread happiness because I think happiness happens when people are being true to themselves and being themselves respectfully alongside lots of other people.

See? I may be young, but we cats spend a lot of time not Doing, so we come out with stuff like that. And purr a lot. Anyway, these are some of those other nice things that you can get when you know your Big What and Why, and stories about how they help me:

1. Build confidence in what you’re saying

If you’re clear about what you want AND why it matters, it’s a great deal easier to speak up and do the things that will help you along. When play is what’s going to make me happy, I do whatever’s needed. Sometimes that means pouncing on unexpected body parts.

2. Be consistent and make decisions more easily

If you want freshly cooked fish, it’s no good suddenly getting distracted playing with shoelaces. Stay focused on getting the fish.

3. What you say and what you do match up, you are easily understood

When you know what you want and why, what you say and what you do will be naturally consistent.. which is a lot of syllables to achieve. Look hungry, sound hungry and food will appear. Snuggle up, purr – attention and cuddles will appear.

4. Reduce stress, chill out

I think people look very worried when they are confused and don’t know what to do. I know what I want, and I do something towards getting what I want. I usually get it, but even if I don’t, I’ve done what I can and just go have a nap or something then carry on later.

5. Get other people to understand you, follow, respond

I have found even the most determinedly “not bothered about animals” human can be captivated.  Some play, falling over your own tail, unexpectedly sitting on them and purring, looking stunning – there’s nearly always a way to get them smiling (NB Keep yourself safe whilst you find out what the something is).

6. Handle ad-hoc questions smoothly

Whilst the answer to Food? Hug? Play? Is always going to be yes, what if all three questions came at once? That’s where big What comes in. My big What is to be happy and spread happiness. So I might say no to food if I am full because eating more will make me feel stuffed and that doesn’t feel happy.

7. Build up “Wheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!” factor (humans call it motivation)

When I’m being happy, others around me feel happier. Then they remember what how nice it is to feel happy, and sometimes they remember what makes them happy. And go and do more of it.

8. Make it easy for others to help you get even more of your Big What

If I don’t make it obvious that I feel happier eating fresh cooked cod than tinned cat food, I will keep getting tinned cat food. Communicating what makes me happy, increases the chance of others contributing to my happiness. (By the way, I also like ping pong balls)(And tennis balls)(And beautiful farmhouse in Welsh Valley)

9. Get above the detail, see what’s important

Pencils are fun to play with, so are toes, paperclips, dust, shoelaces, bits of paper, ping pong balls… Lots of little things and it could get confusing choosing which one – but not if I go back to my What and Why: I play with stuff that’s fun. Is it fun? Right, I’ll play with it.

10. Make your Big What Really Big so there’s lots of different ways to do it

To be happy and spread happiness, there’s so many ways to do it. Main one is just to be me. Then all the details like looking cute, purring, playing, making someone feel special just kind of follow. If I said my Big What was to purr lots then I wouldn’t have so many choices. In fact I think I might even get a sore throat from purring so much, and I would feel strangely unfulfilled because all the other things are important to me too.

I hope you are feeling happy now.  I think people like being around other people that are happy so I hope you know what makes you happy. It might be fresh cooked cod of course. Or it might be something else. You can tell me what it is by replying to this post. And that would make me happy too!

© Bertie Junior, August 2011, updated March 2013

Time out in the Welsh Mountains to take stock, relax, eat yummy home cooked food, get pampered, enjoy beautifully inspiring walks, rediscover what makes you happy,  and be content Happy Holidays

I also LOVE watching nettles & sitting with my friend Bertie Cat

Nana’s Bread Pudding

June 1, 2011 By Sarah Maliphant

My Nana used to make this lovely bread pudding, baking in her big old kitchen. This sweet and spicey breadpud is something I associate a lot with her – along with the excitement of throwing leftover bacon rind to the chickens, picking “baby matoes” (little tomatoes) and night time hot chocolate. So, faithfully recreated, here’s Nana’s bread pudding and all its memories… Continue Reading

Lemon & Parsley Chicken

May 27, 2011 By Sarah Maliphant

When I first tested this recipe out I was stunned. So simple, soooooooooo gorgeous! It’s a bish-bash-bosh sort of way to elevate chicken to a higher level of chickenness. Think you can’t cook? You can manage this!

Lemon & Parsley Chicken

Lemon & Parsley Chicken (serves 4)

Chicken
4 portions of chicken – breast or leg portions

Dressing
200ml olive oil
80g raisins
4 tbl fresh parsley
Juice of 2 lemons
60g pinenuts
Salt & Pepper

Start with making the dressing – the flavours sort themselves out beautifully whilst the chicken cooks.

Measure out the olive oil, add the raisins, chopped fresh parsley and lemon juice plus a sprinkling of salt and pepper. Put it to one side to do the magic infusiony thing (NB Don’t add the pine nuts yet, they come later).

Now pop your chicken in a roasting tin, sprinkle over a little salt and pepper and roast for about 40-60 minutes at 180 C (Aga roasting oven). Check it’s cooked properly by puncturing the skin with a fork – you should see clear juice come out.

Just before you take the chicken out of the oven, toast the pine nuts in a clean, dry frying pan (no oil). Keep your eye on the pan, these little blighters cook quick and taste gorgeous when toasted, not incinerated. So keep the pan moving and tip the pine nuts into your lemon dressing as soon as they start to go golden.

Serve your chicken with the dressing drizzled over. Good with new potatoes and bit of greens. Yum!

If you like this, you may also like Herby Roast Chicken and Lemon Pudding

Welsh Mountain Retreat Holidays Some time out, where someone takes care of you for a change.

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How to buy walking boots you love

May 4, 2011 By Sarah Maliphant

Last year my fabulously comfortable walking boots officially reached the point being worn to shreds. We’d done thousands of miles together. It was time for new boots.

Officially worm to shreds
Before...

Buying new boots has been an interesting process for me over the years. From the first pair of fabric boots (they got very wet, I put them a little too close to the camp fire…), I’ve been through the pair that were a smidge too small (ouch!), a brief foray with a pair that had very high ankle support (yuk), a second fabric pair that fell apart far too quickly, and finally to the deleriously comfortable pair that retired last year after so many miles, simply worn out.

There’s been much boot related learning. My current boots, and the preceding retired pair have been a major success, a pinnacle of instant comfort, value and experience.

So whether you’re thinking of getting some walking boots for the first time, or are facing the imminent replacement of your well-worn uber comfortable boots, here’s a reminder of just how to get boots that quickly feel like home!

... After

More to… Buying Walking Boots You’ll Love

1) Socks first – wear the socks you’ll be walking in. This should be proper walking socks, and maybe liner socks too which help wick moisture away and can give added comfort.

2) Choose your shop – Quality of advice is important when you’re investing in boots. If you can find an outdoor shop where the staff actually go walking a lot and have great product knowledge, that’ll help. Find one with a good range of brands, and see if they’ve got a little downhill slope gizmo in the store for you to test out walking uphill/downhill. Ask around locally for good outdoor shops, or consider travelling a little way to get to one with a good range. My personal favourite place for boot shopping is Ambleside, there are so many great gear shops, so many really skilled retailers. In Surrey, Lansdale is a hidden gem – not exactly a shop but you can buy online if you know what you want, visit them to try stuff on, great prices and they’re incredibly helpful.

3) Expectations – these days you can expect walking boots to be comfortable from the moment you put them on. You don’t have to settle for less so make sure you seek true comfort. The source of hillside blisters is often an, “Oh, those will do….” moment in a gear shop.

4) Leather or Fabric? – Your choice, but in the UK if you want to walk a fair bit my personal recommendation is leather boots. We have lots of green because there’s lots of rain. Leather boots take that in their stride, and last for a long, long, long time. Many people carry a bias against leather boots because of dodgy experiences attempting to “wear in” stiff and uncomfortable boots in the past. Things have moved on, you can expect better. And the weight of leather boots is scarcely noticeable once you’re walking. Fabric boots are lighter though, and good quality ones will be waterproof. I’ve just found that they wear out quicker, and in really soggy weather I’ve stayed drier in my leather boots. As usual – your choice. Whether you choose leather or fabric outer, look out for boots with a Goretex lining – added waterproofing and comfort.

5) Basic features – Make sure the top few lacings on your boots are hooks or D rings, not eyelets that need threading or you’ll go nuts every time you put your boots on. Check the tongue padding which should be thick enough for you not to feel the laces. Check the sole – plenty of good chunky grip. Check the top of the ankle cuff – should be soft and pliable and when you try it on, at a comfortable height for that knobbly ankle bone.

6) Width Fit – This is the important bit. Some brands have quite a narrow fit. Others like Meindl and less-known but fabulous Hanwag have a broader fit, might not suit very petite feet. Try on different types to get a feel for how the width suits you. Walk around the shop, use the downhill slope gizmo in the shop – great to check how the boots feel on a slope. (Downhill slope gizmo is a small ramp in the shop – lets you feel what the boots are like walking up and down a slope.)

7) Length Fit – Once you’ve found a boot that suits your ankle and width of foot, length sizing is easier. Start by trying on a boot that’s your normal shoe size. Take the insole out, stand on it with your heel lined up with the heel-end of the insole, and there should be about a finger width gap (1.5cm) between the end of your toes and the end of the insole. Less than that, you’re going to get numb toes going down hill. More than that, you might slop about in your boots and get blisters. Half a size too big or too small makes loads of difference. When you think you’re there, top tip is to try out next size up and next size down – just to check the one you’ve picked feels best.

8 ) Colour – Hey, who said this had to be all serious? If you find any good boots in radical colours let me know. Otherwise, set your sights on traditional brown, solid black, or a slightly radical charcoal or navy.

9) Final adjustments– bear in mind that the lacing can make the last subtle differences for you. Check the tightness of the main foot area. If the boots feel too tight around the ankle, loosen the lacing there and put a locking lace (half bow) at the joint between ankle and foot to keep your foot secure whilst your ankle has more freedom to move.

10) Ultimately – all the above is just a starting point, the best possible guide is that your feet feel comfortable when you walk around the shop, and walk up and down their slopey gizmo. So if you’re in the store with your walking socks and brand new boots on and your feet are going, “Mmm…alright!” then buy them. Take them home, do some laps of the lounge, the stairs, the bedroom. Sit and watch TV in them, then walk around more. Put them on the next day, do all that again. When you’re really sure, snip that label off and celebrate the start of a long and happy relationship. (For me, this is the point where I go out and find a large muddy puddle to introduce the boots to the real world).

11) Cost How much will boots cost? There’s a good variety on the market. Prices are generally £70 and upwards, and can easily be £120 – £150: but depending on the kind of walking you do, your boots can last you for 10 years or more with a little basic care.

My last pair of boots (Hanwags) did over 2000 miles in the Welsh mountains, Highlands, Himalayas, Andes, Alps, and Surrey countrside. They scrambled, ambled, handled altitude and occasionally yomped if we were close to a pub at the end of the day. Well worth it! And now? They’ve retired from walking, but are still very much in use!

Old boots never die, they just get replanted

I wish you and your boots every happiness!!

Sarah Maliphant, www.more-to.org

Relax, recharge, walk, talk, get pampered and eat home cooked food in the Welsh mountains near Hay-on-Wye.

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